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Stop Trying: How “I’ll Try” Keeps Moms Stuck with Carla Ondrasik

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If you’re a mom who feels like you’re always trying—trying to be more patient, more present, more organized—and yet still end most days feeling like you’re falling short, this episode is for you. 

Today on the show, I’m joined by Carla Ondrasik — a former music executive who helped launch hits like “Genie in a Bottle” for Christina Aguilera, worked with icons like Barbra Streisand and NSYNC, and even discovered the songwriter who would later become her husband, John Ondrasik — the voice behind Five for Fighting.

Carla shares powerful insights from her book, Stop Trying: The Life-Transforming Power of Trying Less and Doing More, and explains why “I’ll try” is often just a polite cover for fear, procrastination, and avoidance. She shows how shifting from try to do can change the way we parent, lead, and live—starting with simple changes in how we talk to ourselves and to our kids.

You’ll hear Carla’s own story of moving from behind-the-scenes supporter in the music industry to stepping into the spotlight with a message that helps moms drop the guilt, get honest about what they really want, and take small, doable steps that build confidence.


A few things Carla shares:

  • Why “I’ll try” quietly keeps moms stuck, exhausted, and discouraged
  • How “try” shows up in parenting and what our kids actually hear
  • The difference in your brain between trying and doing
  • Carla’s journey from music executive to author and speaker
  • Simple language shifts that build confidence for you and your kids

Where to find Carla and her book:

Stop Trying!: The Life-Transforming Power of Trying Less and Doing More by Carla Ondrasik

Website: https://www.carlaondrasik.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carlaondrasik

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