Moms of Tweens and Teens

Autonomy-Supportive Parenting, Interview with Dr. Emily Edlynn

August 01, 2023 Sheryl Gould Episode 89
Moms of Tweens and Teens
Autonomy-Supportive Parenting, Interview with Dr. Emily Edlynn
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Show Notes

As parents, we want our children to take responsibility for their schoolwork, chores, and choices. We want them to grow into independent adults, but when we see them struggling, we sometimes step in and problem-solve, telling them exactly what to do or even doing things ourselves. The problem is the more controlling we are with our kids, the more we can get in the way of them becoming confident, resilient, self-motivated, and independent. 

How do we shift gears to supporting our children’s independence and confidence? How can we do less so they do more?

My special guest, Dr. Emily Edlynn, is here to share her book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting, Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children.

This is a great conversation about our struggle with letting go and allowing our kids to be independent and how we can get out of the way and support our tween's and teen’s independence, confidence, and motivation.

Let’s dive in! 

What you will learn:

  • What does it mean to move from full-service to self-service with our kids? 
  • The importance of having a chore routine. 
  • Supportive parenting is about increasing internal motivation and how we do this with teens and tweens. 
  • The three fundamental human needs of autonomy. 
  • The importance of asking open-ended questions instead of lectures. 
  • The power of emotional connection with our teens and tweens. 
  • Controlling vs. autonomy-supportive parenting. 
  • What it means to be a good-enough parent. 
  • How we should aim for influence but not control. 

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